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GUIDE BOOK TO EXES
The 7 Best Books for Getting Over a
Breakup
A friend recently asked
me to recommend some books to help her friend get over a breakup. To both of our
surprises, I couldn’t give her any suggestions because, well, I didn’t have
any.
I’m a clinical psychologist in full-time private practice in New York
City. People often ask me to recommend shrinks, opine on new therapies, or to
suggest appropriate books. In this case, however, I didn’t have one.
All of my friends,
colleagues, and patients know that one of the things I revere is failure. Failure, in any context, including not
having a good book reference, or the dissolution of a romantic relationship
provides you with an opportunity for improvement. My failure to respond to my
friend’s request showed me that I had not done appropriate research in this
area. I used this as an opportunity for learning and handed her this list a few
weeks ago.
Some of the titles I
suggest will surprise you. Only three of the books I recommended to her (and
now to you) are “how to get over a breakup” books. The other four contain
life-altering wisdom or inspiration that can be even more useful than specific
techniques to ex your ex.
Judging from the overwhelming response I got the last time I made a list of books for meaningful change, it seems that these
reviews are helpful, which I hope is the case here.
So, without further ado,
here is my list of the seven best books for breakups:
The
7 Best Books for Mending a Broken Heart
The Breakup Bible is the best book I have found for helping
people, especially girls, getting through their first heartbreak. It is about a
high school junior, Jen, whose boyfriend, Max, suddenly tells her that he wants
to be friends. Jen can’t imagine how she will deal with seeing Max in school
after they break up, let alone work with him on the school paper. Jen is
initially skeptical about the advice contained in “The Breakup Bible” given to
her by her grandmother, and yet the process Jen goes through throughout the novel
book feels real, touching and, ultimately healing.
Three failed relationships in as many years
are more likely to force you into awakening than three years on a desert island
or shut away in your room.
This book was also on my last list, and with good reason. The Power of Now is one of the books that has changed my life
and speaks to me a spiritual level. In this book, spiritual leader Eckhart
Tolle explains the often misunderstood concept of being in the now in a way
that is useful and practical. This is an essential concept for well-being and
is particualtly helpful when your heart is in a dark place.
5.) The Breakup Bible: The Smart Woman’s Guide to Healing From a Breakup or Divorce by Rachel Sussman
5.) The Breakup Bible: The Smart Woman’s Guide to Healing From a Breakup or Divorce by Rachel Sussman
Don’t confuse this book, The Breakup Bible: The Smart Woman’s Guide to Healing from
a Breakup or Divorce,
with the novel The Breakup Bible recommended above. Although they are both
good, they are vastly different. Unlike the novel, this book is really aimed at
adults and is an invaluable guide for helping people, especially women, move
through Sussman’s three phases of healing from a breakup: healing, understanding
and transformation. What I like best about this book is that in addition to the
thoughtful and empathic way that Sussman writes, there’s lots of solid advice
from women at each step of the process. The
Breakup Bible: The Smart Woman’s Guide to Healing from a Breakup or Divorce is particularly good for women
emerging from a divorce, as it explains how the dissolution of a relationship
makes you stronger.
Tell your heart that the fear of suffering is
worse than the suffering itself. And that no heart has ever suffered when it
goes in search of its dreams.
The Alchemist is not a breakup book. It is, a story of
transformation that explains the need for a Personal Legend in all of our
lives. The
Alchemist tells the
story of a shepherd boy who has a recurring dream, which he believes to be a
prophecy and he sets out in search of a treasure. Along they way, the boy meets
a seer, an old king, an Englishman, an Arabian woman, and ultimately an
Alchemist, who introduce the concept of a Personal Legend and teach him about
destiny and following your own path in life. The reason I think that this is a
great book to read when you have a wounded heart is that it helps to put life
into perspective, and it opens your mind to the larger path of your life and
learning. The
Alchemist is a
timeless treasure, but it can be a particularly valuable treasure when you are
feeling wounded.
3.) How to Heal a Broken Heart in 30 Days: A Day-by-Day Guide
to Saying Good-bye and Getting On With Your Life by Howard
Bronson and Mike Riley
In spite of the fact that
I have publicly admitted to being a romantic, when it comes down to the day-to-day
workings of life, I am actually a pretty practical guy. This is why How to Heal a Broken Heart in 30 Days appeals to me. Bronson and Riley break
down breakups in a practical, daily, easy-to-understand way that helps people
process their emotions while also moving on in a positive way. If you are a
heartbroken practical person, this is definitely the book for you.
2.) Getting Past Your Break-Up: How to Turn a Devastating Loss
into the Best Thing that Ever Happened to You by Susan J. Elliott, JD, MSEd
This is my favorite no-nonsense
break-up book. Elliott is supremely practical and behavioral in her approach to
how to avoid getting sucked back into a dysfunctional relationship. Her “cold
turkey” strategies are incredibly useful for people who need concrete advice on
what to do next.
1.) The Bible
Love bears all things, believes all things,
hopes all things, endures all things.
I am aware that this will
not go over well with many of my colleagues who want nothing to do with
religion, but frankly I don’t care. Whether you are a religious person or not,
or whether you choose to interpret it literally or metaphorically, The Bible
is, was, and will forever be The Greatest Story Ever Told. The wisdom and
parables contained in The Bible are the most helpful I have ever encountered in
my life. The Bible remains the best guide learning to have faith and that
things do get better.
If you are experiencing
the pain of a breakup, I hope this list and the books on it are helpful to you.
Or if you know someone with a wounded heart, I hope that you share it with
them. The wisdom contained in these various sources is vast and can help you
(or someone you know) to a speedy recovery and a stronger and brighter future.
Please feel free to leave a comment here about these books. If you have other
suggestions, or feel like I missed a book or two, please let me know. I’m
always up for learning more.
See ya'll later alligator!
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